Bethanyism #27

Happy Monday!!!

I have a new Bethanyism to share with the world...

For those new readers, you can read this post for the explanation on what a Bethanyism is. I post a new one every Monday with the hope that they will inspire, make you think or spark some creativity, either in myself or others.

Sometimes the things we can't change end up changing us.

I was having a conversation with a friend recently about telling new people things about my life. It's awkward when you meet new people and they start asking you about a husband and kids, etc. People have a tendency to get really uncomfortable when you try to explain that your husband has passed away and that you don't see children in your future because you are still grieving and just trying to take life one day at a time. I always hate these conversations for a few reasons. The first reason is I really don't like making people feel uncomfortable. The second reason is that I don't want anyones pity. And the third reason is, that I don't want Matthew's death to define me, but I want people to understand that I am who I am because of the effect that he had on my life.

 

 

It doesn't seem to matter how well you handle life situations. In some way, big or small, those things that you go through, the things that you survive, end up changing you. They significantly effect you, but it's entirely up to you whether or not those situations define you.

What do you think about this weeks quote?
 

 

Bethanyism #26

Happy Monday!!!

And for those of you in the US, an early Happy Independence Day! 

Man, I have a hard time believing that it's July already. Time is just flying by!

But I do have a new Bethanyism for you to ponder! 

For those new readers, you can read this post for the explanation on what a Bethanyism is. I post a new one every Monday with the hope that they will inspire, make you think or spark some creativity, either in myself or others.

That's the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think that everyone else does too. - Khaled Hosseini

I try my hardest to be an honest person. I might try to soften that truth to save someone's feelings, but I'm still going to tell you the truth. 

Recently I've had someone in my life that has been dishonest with me. Luckily, it wasn't in my close group of friends, but I still took this dishonesty pretty hard. And after going some thinking about the situation I realized that I hate being lied to, mostly because I'm honest with everyone else. 

Unfortunately, you can't really do anything about someone that decides to lie to you, but you can make the decision to not trust them anymore, or even cut them out of your life completely. Because if you can't trust your friends, who can you trust? 

What do you think about this weeks quote? 

Bethanyism #25

Happy Monday!!!

Did everyone have a good weekend? 

I know I did! My newphew's birthday was this weekend and we had fun celebrating!

But now it's Monday and I have a new Bethanyism for you to ponder...

For those new readers, you can read this post for the explanation on what a Bethanyism is. I post a new one every Monday with the hope that they will inspire, make you think or spark some creativity, either in myself or others.

Between two evils, I always pick the one I've never tried before.  - Mae West

This weeks quote goes hand in hand with last weeks quote, which was about living life to the fullest. 

I have a tendency to be a comfort creature and can easily slip into a rut, where I'm doing the same things all the time. 

Lately, I've been forcing myself to try new things. Whether it's something simple like reading a book outside my usual genre or something bigger like going to a gathering where I only know one person. I'm trying to meet new people, experience new things and trying things I've never tried before. 

I mean, isn't that what life is all about? The experiences? 

What do you think about this weeks quote? 

Bethanyism #24

It's Monday!!! 

Which means I have a new Bethanyism to share with the world!

For those new readers, you can read this post for the explanation on what a Bethanyism is. I post a new one every Monday with the hope that they will inspire, make you think or spark some creativity, either in myself or others.

I'll look back on this and smile because it was life and I decided to live it.

I've had several conversations with people lately about doing things that scare you. I've personally had a desire to do something that scares me (think skydiving, swimming with sharks, or other death defying stunt). One of my friends just wanted to know why. 

My reason is simple. 

I do not want to get to the end of my life, to look back and regret the things that I didn't do because they scared me. I want to take advantage of every opportunity that comes my way, even if I have to give myself a little pep talk before I did it. 

Matthew had a way of talking me into doing a lot of things, and I always found myself going along because he was right there next to me, and I knew I would be okay. 

Now that he's gone, it's time for me to be a little bold all on my own. 

What do you think about the quote for this week? 

Bethanyism #23

Happy Monday!!!

I hope everyone is having a wonderful week! Here's a new Bethanyism for you to ponder.

For those new readers, you can read this post for the explanation on what a Bethanyism is. I post a new one every Monday with the hope that they will inspire, make you think or spark some creativity, either in myself or others.

If the universe tried for billions of years it would not be able to create another exact copy of you.    Go dancing or something.

The quote I used for this weeks Bethanyism just makes me smile! Every person that walks on this planet is unique in some way. They are a collection of different beliefs, ideas, quirks, mannerisms, and traditions. There might be a lot of similarities, but no person on this earth is exactly like another. I think sometimes, when people are trying to do what is popular or what people expect of them, that they forget that they don't have to be like everyone else. 

So go dancing or something! 

What do you think about the quote for this week? 

Bethanyism #22

Happy Monday!!!

Can you believe it's June already? I feel like it was just January! 

Here's my latest Bethanyism for you to ponder!

For those new readers, you can read this post for the explanation on what a Bethanyism is. I post a new one every Monday with the hope that they will inspire, make you think or spark some creativity, either in myself or others.

there are certain types of people, who come around every once and awhile, and we don't know why but they tell us stories, and we grow attached, and they feel like magic, in the way they tear down our walls so easily. And whether we want to admit it or not, we realize that sometimes our soulmate lies in more than just one person.

I know that I've posted Bethanyisms before about this very idea (here) but I keep finding quotes that I love about it. 

I honestly believe that a soul mate does not have to be a romantic thing. It can be, but it doesn't have to be. I feel like a soul mate is someone that you have a deep connection with that you simply cannot explain. The understand you on a deeper level, just as you understand them. And because they can understand you on that deeper level, they see the things that you hide from the rest of the world, the things you struggle with that you don't want anyone to know about, your secrets. They know and love you in the truest sense of your self. 

I'm lucky enough to have a few of these people in my life. 

So yes, I believe that it's possible to have more then one soul mate. 

What do you think about this week's quote? 

Bethanyism #21

Happy Monday!!!

And Happy Memorial Day!

Today I'm spending out in the woods with my dog and my good friend, Timmy, in memory of a birthday that won't be celebrated today, but I have a new Bethanyism for you to ponder for the week.

For those new readers, you can read this post for the explanation on what a Bethanyism is. I post a new one every Monday with the hope that they will inspire, make you think or spark some creativity, either in myself or others.

life asked death, "Why do people love me but hate you?" death responded, "Because you are a beautiful lie and I am a painful truth."

Today would have been Matthew's 31st birthday, and with this milestone approaching I have been thinking a lot about life and death and the beauty of both.  

I don't necessarily see life as a lie. It's a possibility. It's a dream. It can be whatever you want it to be, make it whatever you decide you want it to be. It can be a lie, it can be perfect, it can be broken, it can be wasted, it can be fulfilling. 

But in the end, death is the painful truth. Everyone dies. It's concept that humans have been fighting since the beginning of time. We struggle to explain it to children, because even as adults, we struggle to explain it to ourselves. I honestly believe that only in death, can you know the truth. 

What do you think about this week's quote? 

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