Bethanyism #27

Happy Monday!!!

I have a new Bethanyism to share with the world...

For those new readers, you can read this post for the explanation on what a Bethanyism is. I post a new one every Monday with the hope that they will inspire, make you think or spark some creativity, either in myself or others.

Sometimes the things we can't change end up changing us.

I was having a conversation with a friend recently about telling new people things about my life. It's awkward when you meet new people and they start asking you about a husband and kids, etc. People have a tendency to get really uncomfortable when you try to explain that your husband has passed away and that you don't see children in your future because you are still grieving and just trying to take life one day at a time. I always hate these conversations for a few reasons. The first reason is I really don't like making people feel uncomfortable. The second reason is that I don't want anyones pity. And the third reason is, that I don't want Matthew's death to define me, but I want people to understand that I am who I am because of the effect that he had on my life.

 

 

It doesn't seem to matter how well you handle life situations. In some way, big or small, those things that you go through, the things that you survive, end up changing you. They significantly effect you, but it's entirely up to you whether or not those situations define you.

What do you think about this weeks quote?
 

 

Bethanyism #26

Happy Monday!!!

And for those of you in the US, an early Happy Independence Day! 

Man, I have a hard time believing that it's July already. Time is just flying by!

But I do have a new Bethanyism for you to ponder! 

For those new readers, you can read this post for the explanation on what a Bethanyism is. I post a new one every Monday with the hope that they will inspire, make you think or spark some creativity, either in myself or others.

That's the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think that everyone else does too. - Khaled Hosseini

I try my hardest to be an honest person. I might try to soften that truth to save someone's feelings, but I'm still going to tell you the truth. 

Recently I've had someone in my life that has been dishonest with me. Luckily, it wasn't in my close group of friends, but I still took this dishonesty pretty hard. And after going some thinking about the situation I realized that I hate being lied to, mostly because I'm honest with everyone else. 

Unfortunately, you can't really do anything about someone that decides to lie to you, but you can make the decision to not trust them anymore, or even cut them out of your life completely. Because if you can't trust your friends, who can you trust? 

What do you think about this weeks quote?