Bethanyism #27

Happy Monday!!!

I have a new Bethanyism to share with the world...

For those new readers, you can read this post for the explanation on what a Bethanyism is. I post a new one every Monday with the hope that they will inspire, make you think or spark some creativity, either in myself or others.

Sometimes the things we can't change end up changing us.

I was having a conversation with a friend recently about telling new people things about my life. It's awkward when you meet new people and they start asking you about a husband and kids, etc. People have a tendency to get really uncomfortable when you try to explain that your husband has passed away and that you don't see children in your future because you are still grieving and just trying to take life one day at a time. I always hate these conversations for a few reasons. The first reason is I really don't like making people feel uncomfortable. The second reason is that I don't want anyones pity. And the third reason is, that I don't want Matthew's death to define me, but I want people to understand that I am who I am because of the effect that he had on my life.

 

 

It doesn't seem to matter how well you handle life situations. In some way, big or small, those things that you go through, the things that you survive, end up changing you. They significantly effect you, but it's entirely up to you whether or not those situations define you.

What do you think about this weeks quote?